We are Vietnamese. I thought we were a community, however, we aren't. I have always felt like an outsider inside the Vietnamese community in Germany, or at least in Freiburg, where I have been living until I enrolled in university.
One summervacation I got a job in the company where my father works. When my former boss contacted me to ask me whether I could work for him again, I told him that I found another job.
People expect you to behave and dress a certain way so that they can identify you as male or female. They can't deal with things they don't know, things they don't understand. They want to push their expectations and world view on you.